Do you ever find yourself asking these questions or making these statements?
- Am I doing enough?
- Did I do the right thing?
- I’m not as good as so-and-so.
- I’m not sure I should really make a change this late in life.
Questions and statements like this are all rooted in self-doubt. For many people, self-doubt is hidden in the back corners of their minds, while others struggle with it on a daily basis. Which is true for you? In reality, we all doubt ourselves from time to time. We question our skills, our potential, and even our intentions. Doubts are quite normal. They can show up with every new challenge (e.g., a new role or responsibility, a new business, or a new relationship). They can also come with something we have done that carries a lot of baggage or limits beliefs for us.
So, what is self-doubt? It’s a lack of self-confidence, and that points to fear. False evidence appearing real—F.E.A.R. Do you find yourself giving up because of self-doubt? When we give up, we chip away at our remaining self-confidence and give ourselves another reference point for the future to not believe in ourselves. Ultimately, we stop considering our dreams and desires and just settle.
So how can we alleviate self-doubt? The first step is to admit it. For many, just admitting it to someone and sharing their struggle brings a sense of relief and freedom. Here are a few practical suggestions:
• Practice daily gratitude—each day, list three things you did well.
• Reassure yourself that feedback from others is just another viewpoint, not a weakness/fault in you.
• Educate yourself in areas about which you’re unsure.
• Redirect your attention to what’s next, as opposed to everything.
• Focus on where your power lies and what you CAN do.
Finally, remember your positive qualities when faced with doubt, focus on things that feel good, and raise your level of faith and trust in yourself. Watch your self-doubt diminish as you consciously and consistently put these tips into practice. When I work with people regarding self-doubt, I find a common thread: Those who avoid failure by not engaging at all, and those who avoid failure by doing too much. Which one is your go-to? How well does it serve you?
If you’d like help becoming more self-confident and self-assured, book a discovery call with me. If you have any other questions, feel free to reach out to me as well. I look forward to hearing from you, and I’ll leave you with this quote: If you must doubt something, doubt your limits!