We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, a day for celebrating love. For some, there will be roses, candy, special gifts, and dinner. For others, maybe not. Today I’d like to put a different spin on Valentine’s Day and suggest that we make it a day that we can all celebrate together regardless of whether we’re in a relationship or not.
From time to time, we all struggle with loving ourselves. We’re often our own worst critics. Case in point, I record these videos every few weeks. When I go back to watch them after the fact, I tear them apart by criticizing myself. Do you ever find yourself doing that? Maybe you’re looking in the mirror and thinking down on your appearance, or you just finished a big project at work but feel like it could have been done better.
Why do we do this? The struggle with loving ourselves often stems from the fear that we’re just not good enough. For example, some of you may be in a job or career you don’t like because you subconsciously think you’re not good enough to secure a better, more fulfilling job or start that business you’ve always dreamed of. These are all lies that we tell ourselves, and recognizing that is a matter of self-love.
Loving ourselves is so important because it influences the image we project at work, who we select as a mate, and how we deal with challenges in our lives. It’s so important to our welfare that I want to share a few quick tips on how we can bring more love into our own lives:
1. Be mindful. Process your fears, don’t reject them. Understand them and don’t believe everything that you think. We all have an inner critic.
2. Forgive yourself. We’re all human and we make mistakes. Allow yourself to make them and don’t fear them, but learn and grow from them. We’re constantly striving to be better versions of ourselves.
3. Practice self-care. Sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, and healthy interactions are vital.
4. Protect your space. Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. Remove any toxic people who don’t take responsibility or won’t change their behaviors.
5. Celebrate. Celebrate your wins, big and small. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of all your accomplishments thus far.
As a life coach, this is the kind of work I do with my clients every day. I teach them to continually practice self-love, thereby releasing all self-limiting beliefs and living a life full of joy and happiness.
Remember: You deserve to be loved. You are important. There’s only one person like you in the world. You deserve to be loved by those around you and by the most important person in your life: you. Celebrate with self-love this Valentine’s Day.
If you’d like more support in this area, I invite you to schedule a breakout session with me. If you have any other questions, don’t hesitate to reach out via phone or email. I look forward to hearing from you soon.